It’s no secret that more and more people are selecting cremation over traditional burial for their end-of-life planning. As we have highlighted on this blog previously, many families opt to place the cremated remains of their loved one within their home in a decorative or uniquely personalized urn. By doing this, your loved one forever feels close to the family and is easily able to be fondly remembered.
Often times, in the event of an untimely or early passing, a spouse will not only provide their blessing, but will implore their surviving husband or wife to seek happiness as life progresses without them. In a recently written and very interesting article, one such instance was highlighted where a husband was able to remarry after the passing of his wife and mother of his two children. The urn of his deceased wife was, even after the wedding, kept in the family living room of the house. While keeping her near was no doubt a source of comfort for both he and his two children, it is understandable how an ever present reminder could stir feelings of insecurity in his new wife.
The memory of a loved one and how we are connected to them is different for each person. As noted in the article, the insecurity of the new wife likely led her to broach the topic of relocating the urn to a less prominent place in the home in a manner that was perceived as having been insensitive by the children and her husband. She asks, “Was I wrong to ask my husband to move his late wife’s urn?” The answer is, “Of course not.” But there is more to it than that. (more…)